A Story About… Best Laid Plans
How do you deal with a big change in what you had carefully planned? At the weekend we were meant to plant our hedge. The trench was dug in readiness last week for 100s of plants to go in. And then it rained, a lot […]
Tag: mental health
A Story About… Life Experience
Do you have a seemingly unconnected job in your past which has given you skills you use now? After taking delivery of these beauties I am facing a weekend of revisiting a past career as a garden designer ???? ????And it got me […]
A Story About… Habits
I have a habit of messing up taking videos of important stuff – as you can see from this clip of my daughter’s first ever rock step climb in Wales this weekend.
In my excitement I pressed the record button twice ???? I like to think this was a one off. But I also did it on my husband’s turn of the ascent ????????♀️
????What relevance does this have to you, you may wonder?
Well, habits can help or hinder us.
And we get to choose which ones we persevere with!
Mike Foster & I are collaborating on 4th May with our Habit Makers event. Our aim is to help you explore, develop and sustain those habits that help you in your business and personal life.
The Eventbrite link is live for more information and to book your place ???? I promise I won’t do any videoing ????
A Story About… The Shed Social
A Story about … The Shed Social March’s Shed Social was epic ???? We got warm and cosy over Dr. Jenny Gordon fresh baked scones ???? and talked about so many things. Some work, some personal and some just plain funny ???? The Shed social has no […]
A Story About…CBA Days 2
Do you get them? What do you do? For those of you not familiar with the term CBA stands for Can’t Be Arsed We all have those days, even people who seem to regularly have all their ducks in a row! Some signs of […]
A Story about …New Year’s resolutions
This is me doing it my way so that some of you can do it your way.
I am not a fan of making those sweeping resolutions that tend to happen in January.
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result.”
Every year I see the same thing happen.
Resolutions to get fitter, healthier and happier. And do it all in January – arguably the most miserable month of the year.
Then 2-3 weeks later, most if not all of those intentions have fallen by the wayside as life happens.
And we think we have failed.
And it’s not worth trying again.
Until next January!
Often these new year resolutions don’t stick because we:
Didn’t really want to but thought we ‘should’
Didn’t know WHY we were doing it
Didn’t consider HOW it was going to happen
Didn’t factor in real life into the picture
Changed too much too quickly
Had no support or accountability
Let’s not get insanely carried away with NY Resolutions this time.
Do different in 2023!
Let 2023 be the year you:
Know WHY and HOW you will be fitter, healthier and happier
Make the small changes that make great differences to YOU
Take the actions that fit in with YOUR life
Create habits that are consistent and sustainable long term
Are supported by likeminded positive individuals who are making change too
Have the accountability for the choices and actions you commit to
TSW SOS is my monthly membership that will help you DO DIFFERENT.
Sustainable, actionable change.
Starting from 25th January 2023
(deliberately after the NY chaos)
A guided monthly space for you to plan, resolve and sort your shit out once and for all in a way that works for you.
Bring your questions to the Shed table, each month, share it with the small confidential group, get supportive help & ideas for actions to take. Then choose where you will focus, mentally, emotionally and physically. Commit to your action and be held accountable throughout the month. And review & celebrate and go again the next month.
No insanity
No failure
YOUR results, YOUR way.
Fancy doing different in 2023?
Don’t wait for the new year, choose different NOW – Book your place with a message
A Story About … Christmas Charity Shed Social ?
The last Shed Social was a lot of fun. We had good chats, hung out in the shed with new and existing friends. Drank tea and coffee of different varieties and grazed from an amazing sharing platter provided by The Oxford Grazing Company. If you […]
A Story about …CBA days
Do you get them? What do you do? ? For those of you not familiar with the term CBA stands for Can’t Be Arsed We all have those days, even people who seem to regularly have all their ducks in a row! ???? Some signs […]
A Story About … Sorting my own Sh!t
Yes I have some. In fact quite a lot of ?
Mostly it’s day to day
? A gorgeous but incontinent old spaniel surrounded by 3 other lively ones that are not careful where they run
? A close family who I support with their own sh!t going on
? Running a business that I LOVE delivering in but not such a great fan of the operational ‘stuff’
? Balancing my fitness alongside recovering from some ‘fun’ operations
Add some seasonal ? to the mix (dark, wet, windy and gloomy weather challenges my positive mindset every year) and I felt myself tipped over the edge into a dark patch of life.
Yesterday and this morning the ? hit me, hard!
I missed my daily outside walk/run yesterday due to a physio appointment where I was encouraged to be patient with a setback in my healing. By the time I got back from Oxford it was dark and the prospect of a wet walk in the night as a lone female had zero appeal.
I binned out of the day and sat under a large fluffy blanket with endless tea reading my book. Whilst being pestered by suspiciously wet pawed spaniels asking for their dinner.
A bad pain night left me pondering the wiseness of getting up for early morning networking.
The negative diatribe in my head was working up to full steam!
And then I stopped. ?
I took a moment to breathe.
I recognised this cycle
I saw myself sabotaging my positivity
I could see the ‘fuck it, I can’t be arsed’ train of thought happening in real time.
I took a moment and chose to observe and regroup.
I refocused on what my purpose is.
I centred my thinking around small actions I could take to support myself.
I resolved to work through those actions one at a time
I have the faith in myself to see the light at the end of the tunnel and to keep moving, however slowly, towards it.
I know this process works
As I write this, I am still working my way towards the light.
I am celebrating each win that brings me closer back to my shining light.
? I gave myself time to allow the feelings to move through
? I shared with those who are close to me and that I trust to support me
? I re-engaged with my WHY and my plans to move forward
? I went networking anyway and had some great learning
? I allowed the family to help with the old dog clean up
? I went outside for my walk/run and got the sun on my face
Having a plan, allowing the feelings and taking those small actions and asking for help and support can help us cope so much better with life’s challenges.
Do you struggle to sort your ? out in your life?
I can’t promise that you’ll never have ? in your life. But I can show you how to see your shining light at the end of the dark tunnel.
? It Happens! It’s what we do next that makes the difference ?
If you’d like some strategies to find that shining light, check out the link in my ?photo ?
What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
The short answer? A fighter pilot – aged 8 and female in the 70’s this was not even allowed! I was told I could be an air traffic control officer instead. Same, same, right?! By the time society had changed enough to let women be […]