Month: November 2022

A Story About … Christmas Charity Shed Social ?

A Story About … Christmas Charity Shed Social ?

The last Shed Social was a lot of fun. We had good chats, hung out in the shed with new and existing friends. Drank tea and coffee of different varieties and grazed from an amazing sharing platter provided by The Oxford Grazing Company. If you […]

A Story about …CBA days

A Story about …CBA days

Do you get them? What do you do? ? For those of you not familiar with the term CBA stands for Can’t Be Arsed We all have those days, even people who seem to regularly have all their ducks in a row! ???? Some signs […]

A Story About … Sorting my own Sh!t

A Story About … Sorting my own Sh!t

Yes I have some. In fact quite a lot of ?

Mostly it’s day to day
? A gorgeous but incontinent old spaniel surrounded by 3 other lively ones that are not careful where they run
? A close family who I support with their own sh!t going on
? Running a business that I LOVE delivering in but not such a great fan of the operational ‘stuff’
? Balancing my fitness alongside recovering from some ‘fun’ operations

Add some seasonal ? to the mix (dark, wet, windy and gloomy weather challenges my positive mindset every year) and I felt myself tipped over the edge into a dark patch of life.

Yesterday and this morning the ? hit me, hard!

I missed my daily outside walk/run yesterday due to a physio appointment where I was encouraged to be patient with a setback in my healing. By the time I got back from Oxford it was dark and the prospect of a wet walk in the night as a lone female had zero appeal.

I binned out of the day and sat under a large fluffy blanket with endless tea reading my book. Whilst being pestered by suspiciously wet pawed spaniels asking for their dinner.

A bad pain night left me pondering the wiseness of getting up for early morning networking.

The negative diatribe in my head was working up to full steam!

And then I stopped. ?

I took a moment to breathe.
I recognised this cycle
I saw myself sabotaging my positivity
I could see the ‘fuck it, I can’t be arsed’ train of thought happening in real time.

I took a moment and chose to observe and regroup.

I refocused on what my purpose is.
I centred my thinking around small actions I could take to support myself.
I resolved to work through those actions one at a time
I have the faith in myself to see the light at the end of the tunnel and to keep moving, however slowly, towards it.

I know this process works

As I write this, I am still working my way towards the light.

I am celebrating each win that brings me closer back to my shining light.

? I gave myself time to allow the feelings to move through
? I shared with those who are close to me and that I trust to support me
? I re-engaged with my WHY and my plans to move forward
? I went networking anyway and had some great learning
? I allowed the family to help with the old dog clean up
? I went outside for my walk/run and got the sun on my face

Having a plan, allowing the feelings and taking those small actions and asking for help and support can help us cope so much better with life’s challenges.

Do you struggle to sort your ? out in your life?

I can’t promise that you’ll never have ? in your life. But I can show you how to see your shining light at the end of the dark tunnel.

? It Happens! It’s what we do next that makes the difference ?

If you’d like some strategies to find that shining light, check out the link in my ?photo ?