A Story About…CBA Days 2
Do you get them? What do you do?
For those of you not familiar with the term CBA stands for Can’t Be Arsed
We all have those days, even people who seem to regularly have all their ducks in a row!
Some signs of a CBA day looming:
- Drained after a bad nights sleep
- Feeling under the weather, not quite right
- Family being more challenging than normal
- To Do list is too long and too challenging
- Everything you touch seems to go wrong
- Get up and go seems to have got up and gone
- Exercise is not appealing.
- Teetering on the edge feels more like clinging on by your fingertips!
This time of year can trigger more of those CBA moments than normal with the unpredictable weather, the darkness and dreariness.
It can all seem too much. The desire to bin out and just hunker down under a blanket with a plateful of biscuits and hide from the world can be very strong! Or is that just me? ????????♀️
Here’s how I manage a big case of the CBA’s.
I give it a score out of 10. And then take action accordingly.
1-5 out of 10 – A mild CBA DAY
Often a mindset change can change the course of the day. So planning and actioning a few tiny steps can get me back on track
- Drink some water
- Take a walk
- 10 mins sat quietly with no distractions
- A chat with a (supportive) friend
- A hug
- Writing down the crap in my head
- Some gentle stretching
- The ritual of making a proper cup of tea (or coffee)
- A nap
And then moving on to something small and not arduous that will give me the feeling of achieving something that day.
- An easy item ticked off the To Do list
- Some exercise – something that is enjoyable and not too challenging
- Clear some clutter
Action is so much easier to take once you start taking it. And the tiny steps create momentum to the small steps that then make the larger steps more manageable ????????
6-9 out of 10 – A medium CBA Day
These are the times when the overwhelm seems overwhelming!
These are the times I treat myself to permission to change the plan for the day.
Some things I do
- Give myself permission to not achieve
- Write the angst onto paper and burn it
- Recognise that I am not superwoman
- Take the morning/afternoon/day off all non essentials
- Choose to do something that is comforting and nurturing and enjoy it with no guilt
- Hunt for and celebrate all and any positives and silver linings I can think of
- Stay away from media/news/challenging tv
- Decide what I want the next minute/hour/day to look and feel like
- Take the tiny/small actions that will help that happen
- Celebrate each and every step
CBA days can feel overwhelming.
But we can still choose how we act.
What causes your CBA days? And what actions do you take?
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