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????What does individuality mean to you?
I am a firm believer that individuality is vital for a thriving life.
For you and all around you.
I believe in this so much, it is the foundation of how I work.
Too much of our lives can be influenced by others: family, work, health, marketing, sales, cultural, prejudice. The list goes on. I’m sure you can add more to the list.
It starts from a very early age: doing what we’re told, doing what we should, doing what is expected. This gets externally rewarded and so we feel we are doing the right thing.
We are not taught from an early age (certainly my generation) to be individuals, to question, to do what is right for us as a person.
It took me years to shake off this external expectation and do what is right for me. After all, putting yourself first is the ultimate selfishness. And nobody wants to be thought of as selfish do they?
But what if you looked at yourself as an individual and thought ‘what will I choose?’
When someone tells us we should do this, to ask them (and ourselves) ‘why would I do that?’
Here’s my take on the power of individuality.
????The power of individuality is in asking WHY and the choice we make from the answer we get.
????The power of individuality is taking responsibility for our own actions and for those choices we make that move us forward to be better, healthier, happier human beings.
????The power of individuality is looking at all the options, researching behind the external influences and making a choice that is the best one for YOU as an individual.
I’m not saying it is easy to do. It takes practise. There are always many factors that can influence a decision or action. Sometimes it is an extremely hard choice to make. And I certainly don’t always get it right!
But being an individual means taking that responsibility for our choices and actions in the knowledge that we are doing the best we can every day.
The knock on effect of this individuality means the relationships we have with others comes from a place of personal certainty and strength. So we can best support others in our lives to make their individual choices.
It is the reason I am not affiliated with, ambassador for or profiting from any organisation. So that I can remain independent and offer my individual help, support and advice ????
I have declined some amazing opportunities after long soul searching that looked great on paper but compromised my core belief that I remain independent.
It is the reason why The Southey Way is different to the accepted Personal Trainer model.
????My purpose behind helping each and every individual I work with is to encourage them to put themselves first, look at their options, take responsibility for the choices they make for their own lives. To help them do it their way.
How would your decisions and actions change if you put yourself in the centre of your own individual universe?
Why would you put yourself first?
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Have you felt it was truly personal with your PT or coach?
I’m often asked what makes me different from other health & fitness professionals.
Here’s one of the main ones: For me, it’s personal.
By that, I mean I’m all in for each and every one of my clients.
Here’s why.
So my clients are very special people.
?They are my Superstars ?
Each and every one of my clients inspire me to be better than I think I can be (and I think I’m pretty awesome ?)
My Superstars ? lead very different lives and work in a variety of industries that, on paper, wouldn’t look like they have any common ground.
But they do.
They are all driven in one way or another to help others to the best of their abilities. Both inside and outside their work environment.
All have a tendency (which they recognise) to put themselves last in their list!
?My purpose?
To help then be fit, healthy and happy within themselves so they have a rock steady foundation to live their purpose.
That role is impossible to achieve with a cookie cutter approach.
Non of these Superstars ?would come to me at The Shed if this was my approach.
My Superstars ?need to be supported with a personal approach.
Each one of these people is an individual, bringing their own agendas, purpose, way of working and thinking and actioning into The Shed.
So I work within those parameters, guided by each Superstar ?. After all, there is not a lot worse than being shoehorned into someone else’s way of working is there? Especially when it’s your life and your journey!
One may come in and want to get cracking on the physical exercise straight away. Another needs time in The Chair to download.
One may like working to goals and deadlines. Another responding well to suggestions.
One may share, in the safe shed space, personal issues ready for an independent set of ears to help dig out a solution. Another may want to joke and have a laugh.
One may like to be timed on their workout as a measure of achievement. Another wants nothing to do with the clock.
One may like to work out to Motown. Another preferring K-pop.
One may want to be pushed hard and into the red zone. Another may want to never sweat at all.
Each Superstar ?could be one or more of these things or some I haven’t mentioned!
So, for me to achieve my purpose, it HAS to be personal.
Because for each Superstar ?it is personal. Their choice, their journey.
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Group, Online or 121 Memberships – what works for you best? You choose. PM me for a chat to find YOUR best solution.