Tag: wellbeing

A Story About…Happiness

A Story About…Happiness

There is a lot of talk about work/life balance and how we should strive to maintain the perfect balance between the two. 50/50 being how it is represented often and there in lies happiness. Or does it? It seems logical to approach life like this […]

A Story About…Ripples and Waves

A Story About…Ripples and Waves

I have a purpose that I haven’t been shouting from the roof tops. A mission if you will! One that is ambitious and yet so doable! My mission is to help the world thrive and live healthier happier lives, one person at a time. I […]

A Story About…Owning our Sh*t!

A Story About…Owning our Sh*t!

I was once told I was arrogant for saying “I’m awesome at what I do”

❓How would you react if someone said this to you?

Would you…
Get angry or cross?
Apologise?
Say thank you?
Feel hurt?

I was grateful for the comment because it allowed me to share exactly why I am awesome at what I do!

My response?
It’s not arrogant to own your skills, your worth and your impact.

I am awesome at helping my clients sort their shit out, physically, mentally and emotionally so they thrive more in their lives.

I know I am awesome because:
I’ve done the work in and on myself and accept and own who I am
My clients tell me often how they and their lives change when they step into their awesomeness

Owning our shit isn’t about denying anything or hiding our weaknesses. We all are awesome in many various and different ways. We also all have shit going on in our lives that is less than awesome at times.

In fact one of the best ways for us to step up and make a change for ourselves, our lives and those around us is to Own our own Shit.

Taking responsibility for the good we do is as important as learning from the mistakes and failures we make.

By acknowledging our strengths and weaknesses we can decide what actions to take and then take them!

We choose each of our actions and responses to both external and internal influences.

Owning our Sh*t can be hard work.

It means taking responsibility for:
The excuses we make to not do something
The blame we place (on ourselves and others)
Choosing to do nothing instead of something
Procrastinating so we don’t have the time to do it

It means:
Choosing to do the hard but right thing
Committing to ourselves consistently
Learning where we hide and coming out from the dark
Holding the boundaries of our purpose and self worth
Living by a personal set of values that align and move you forward

Owning your shit has huge benefits:
Living a truly authentic life
Thriving physically, mentally and emotionally
Leading by example for others to see the benefits
Following your purpose with passion and drive
Stepping up to your awesome and no longer hiding in the shadows
Having the energy and resilience to pay it forward and help and support others.

It may be challenging but it’s also super empowering and super liberating.

So, no it is not arrogant to own your shit.

It’s absolutely essential – for you and all who are around you!

And if you would like help and support owning your shit, drop me a message.

Because I’m awesome at this stuff!

 

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A Story About…Disappointment & Celebration ….what would you do?

A Story About…Disappointment & Celebration ….what would you do?

When my consultant told me the other week that I have Osteoarthritis in my shoulder, my heart fell. When he then told me “No more CrossFit and no more Powerlifting” I nearly cried! These two have been my joy for so many years and I’ve […]

A Story About…Eating

A Story About…Eating

How does your past experience shape your approach to eating now? Can we change our future? I think so!   ‘Eyes bigger than…’   I was reminded of this phrase whilst eating my lunch recently.   I was starving. So made a very decent sized […]

A Story About…Old dog, old tricks…and new!

A Story About…Old dog, old tricks…and new!

A Story about …Old dog, old tricks…and new!

After almost 4 years and 5 operations I finally got permission to go back to the sport I love.

Bring it on.

Never too old
Never too broken
Never let life stop you

Always time to do something new
Or old
That brings you joy
Deep down in your soul

What is that for you?

 

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Group, Online or 121 Memberships – what works for you best? You choose. PM me for a chat to find your best solution.

A Story About…Overflowing

A Story About…Overflowing

A Story about …Overflowing …and who’s in your corner? A river, on the whole, is a great example of personal growth and development. It carves its way through the landscape, growing slowly, making small changes in its path to obstacles that it comes up against. […]

A Story About…”You do you hun”

A Story About…”You do you hun”

  A story about “You do you hun” …. what anchors you when the expectation to conform conflicts with your authenticity? I’ve seen this phrase is being used on social media in a derogatory manner. And quite frankly it makes me cross. As someone who […]

A Story About…The Voice In Your Head

A Story About…The Voice In Your Head

A Story About…The Voice In Your Head

What does the voice in your head tell you?

Is it helpful or unhelpful stuff?
The Internal Voice can be very convincing!

No, don’t be stupid
You are rubbish at
You can’t do
You’re not good enough to
You’re not worth that
Nobody will listen to you saying that
You’ll never be able to…
You’re too (insert derogatory words) to

OR

Don’t rock the boat
People won’t like it/you if
It will be too disruptive to

OR

I won’t try that because I might fail
I won’t do that as it will go wrong
There’s no point because

I’m sure you could add some more!

We can beat ourselves up without even trying. That Internal Voice can be pretty vocal in its opinions.
Those opinions can easily influence the actions we take (or don’t take).

That internal voice is loud and shouty for a reason.

Our brain is hardwired to keep us safe i.e. alive!
After all, what we have always done and the way we have always done it hasn’t killed us yet so it must be the right thing to do.

That Internal Voice gets loud and shouty as soon as that safety feels threatened.

Safe does not mean we are achieving our dreams and purpose.

So what can we do to quieten that shouty Internal Voice, we can crack on with the stuff we want/need to do?

Here’s a few suggestions that I’ve found useful.

  • Be Kind – Treat The Voice like you would a close friend. Give it a name if you want to.
  • Opinion – Let The Voice shout. Let it have it’s opinion. By listening rather than ignoring, The Voice will feel heard. And by listening it can give you a clue to the way through to achieve what you want.
  • Plan – When we organise, process and break it up into small chunks it is easier for the Internal Voice to handle.
  • Reason – Having a powerful reason for the challenging action can help persuade The Voice that it’s an essential action to take to feel safe and worth the risk.
  • Counter argue – Providing The Voice with a worse case scenario if the action doesn’t happen can help sway it in your favour.
  • Reassure – Providing evidence that the new situation is going to be beneficial and positive will calm that pesky voice.
  • Rephrase – Rephrase the objections from The Voice using language that has positive focus. Replacing words like Can’t/Don’t/Shouldn’t with Can/Will/Shall.
  • Breathe then Jump – Feel the fear and do it anyway. And then celebrate doing it. The brain will hunt for more of what we tell it. So by Doing and Celebrating it’s showing The Voice that we are ok, still alive and can do that again!

And finally,

Practice – The more we practise the process of moving through the doubting shouty Internal Voice obstacle, the easier it gets. And the more fun stuff we get to do. So keep practising!

What does your Voice shout? And how do you move through it?

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Group, Online or 121 Memberships – what works for you best? You choose. PM me for a chat to find your best solution.

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A Story About…Health

A Story About…Health

A story about…..Health is for life not just for January ???? January is a time when lots of people make decisions to change many aspects in their lives. Gyms see the impact of this as their membership number goes up.???? ????????But being healthy is so […]