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I have a purpose that I haven’t been shouting from the roof tops. A mission if you will! One that is ambitious and yet so doable!
My mission is to help the world thrive and live healthier happier lives, one person at a time.
I truly believe that each and every one of us has a magic that needs sharing with others. And that magic is different for everyone. That magic is a true and joyous gift that keeps on giving.
When we share our magic with others it’s like a ripple in the water. The more we share the more ripples are sent out. Others catch those ripples and absorb the energy from them. And their ripples are made stronger because of it. And then their ripples are sent out and help those who are around them.
My magic is to help and support each person I come across to find their best way of thriving. When someone is thriving it is easier to share their magic with others.
My personal purpose is to always leave people happier with their lives than before they met me, whether that is on a personal or professional level.
Most of the time I succeed.
Sometimes people aren’t ready for my ripples. Sometimes the magic needed is somebody else’s. And that’s ok!
I will keep going, spreading my magic and creating my ripples. Making sure those ripples keep circling outwards helping others make waves!
What is your ripple making magic?
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How does your past experience shape your approach to eating now? Can we change our future?
I think so!
‘Eyes bigger than…’
I was reminded of this phrase whilst eating my lunch recently.
I was starving. So made a very decent sized lunch Then I got full 3/4 of the way through!
How many times did your parent tell you “Eyes bigger than your stomach” when you left food on your plate as a kid?
Other phrases I remember
“Eat it all up. It’s not fair on the starving children if you leave it”
And
“If you don’t finish your plate, you can’t have any pudding”
As a forces child I went to boarding school. Meal times a were portioned and regimented and allocated a certain amount of time in the day.
If you didn’t eat then, you didn’t eat at all. And there was always a scramble for ‘seconds’
These phrases and attitude in my young years had (and still have) an effect on my eating habits. At times causing me to gain weight (fat) and drop weight (fat and muscle) through diets, extreme or otherwise so that I could conform to society’s accepted norm.
It has taken me years to work my way through all this ingrained warped attitude to food. And even now, I can rebel quite hard (Jaffa cakes were clearly meant to be eaten in one sitting…)
Here’s some of my key learnings:
Life is too short to feel guilty about food and our relationship with it.
Choose your food and enjoy it.
This is about as prescriptive as I get around nutrition. And I will never tell anyone what they should or shouldn’t do.
Not after it’s taken me so long to get all those phrases under control and/or out of my head!
What phrases do you remember from childhood that are perhaps guiding you now?
And if you want some straight talking about mindset, diet culture and what choices you can make, drop me a message
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A story about “You do you hun”
…. what anchors you when the expectation to conform conflicts with your authenticity?
I’ve seen this phrase is being used on social media in a derogatory manner. And quite frankly it makes me cross.
As someone who embraces the uniqueness of each individual, the thought that what makes us different could be a bad thing sits very uncomfortably with me.
To my delight, though, there is also an increasing wave of focus on authenticity and being unapologetically you.
I love it. Long may it reign, for me and everyone who has hidden their uniqueness.
It’s been a long slog for me but I’m finally there!
For years, I put a brave face on, delivered what others expected of me, said yes to make people happy, ran my business how others told me it should be done. Generally conformed to the acceptable status quo.
For years I wasn’t me, wasn’t happy. In fact I was downright miserable. Not that anyone would have known of course, as I kept it all under wraps. Don’t show weakness, vulnerability or open yourself up to criticism. Keep on carrying on and all that!
I really started to celebrate my and others uniqueness when I started The Southey Way. Helping people find their way to thrive their way. Deciphering the generic code of health & fitness and throwing all the ‘you musts’ and the ‘shoulds’ in the bin and finding a path that works for each individual superstar. Over 7 years in and I am still loving it!
Today was an epic day in ‘embrace the uniqueness of you’. A fabulous alternative way to network and find authentic support followed by laughing and crying with a new client as we start in her journey.
A true validation of self and self-worth that helps anchor my ship in rocky times. When I’m told what I do and how I do it is wrong or can be improved by this programme or that magic 5 elements I remember days like this and reaffirm that I am more than enough in my uniqueness and I will carry on being unapologetically and authentically me.
What anchors you when the expectation to conform conflicts with your authenticity?
So, You do you hun, Always!
And if you need non-judgemental support, you know where I am.
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