Author: Sara Southey

A Story About … Christmas Charity Shed Social 🎄

A Story About … Christmas Charity Shed Social 🎄

The last Shed Social was a lot of fun. We had good chats, hung out in the shed with new and existing friends. Drank tea and coffee of different varieties and grazed from an amazing sharing platter provided by The Oxford Grazing Company. If you […]

A Story about …CBA days

A Story about …CBA days

Do you get them? What do you do? 🤔 For those of you not familiar with the term CBA stands for Can’t Be Arsed We all have those days, even people who seem to regularly have all their ducks in a row! 🦆🦆🦆🦆 Some signs […]

A Story About … Sorting my own Sh!t

A Story About … Sorting my own Sh!t

Yes I have some. In fact quite a lot of 💩

Mostly it’s day to day
💩 A gorgeous but incontinent old spaniel surrounded by 3 other lively ones that are not careful where they run
💩 A close family who I support with their own sh!t going on
💩 Running a business that I LOVE delivering in but not such a great fan of the operational ‘stuff’
💩 Balancing my fitness alongside recovering from some ‘fun’ operations

Add some seasonal 💩 to the mix (dark, wet, windy and gloomy weather challenges my positive mindset every year) and I felt myself tipped over the edge into a dark patch of life.

Yesterday and this morning the 💩 hit me, hard!

I missed my daily outside walk/run yesterday due to a physio appointment where I was encouraged to be patient with a setback in my healing. By the time I got back from Oxford it was dark and the prospect of a wet walk in the night as a lone female had zero appeal.

I binned out of the day and sat under a large fluffy blanket with endless tea reading my book. Whilst being pestered by suspiciously wet pawed spaniels asking for their dinner.

A bad pain night left me pondering the wiseness of getting up for early morning networking.

The negative diatribe in my head was working up to full steam!

And then I stopped. 🛑

I took a moment to breathe.
I recognised this cycle
I saw myself sabotaging my positivity
I could see the ‘fuck it, I can’t be arsed’ train of thought happening in real time.

I took a moment and chose to observe and regroup.

I refocused on what my purpose is.
I centred my thinking around small actions I could take to support myself.
I resolved to work through those actions one at a time
I have the faith in myself to see the light at the end of the tunnel and to keep moving, however slowly, towards it.

I know this process works

As I write this, I am still working my way towards the light.

I am celebrating each win that brings me closer back to my shining light.

🌟 I gave myself time to allow the feelings to move through
🌟 I shared with those who are close to me and that I trust to support me
🌟 I re-engaged with my WHY and my plans to move forward
🌟 I went networking anyway and had some great learning
🌟 I allowed the family to help with the old dog clean up
🌟 I went outside for my walk/run and got the sun on my face

Having a plan, allowing the feelings and taking those small actions and asking for help and support can help us cope so much better with life’s challenges.

Do you struggle to sort your 💩 out in your life?

I can’t promise that you’ll never have 💩 in your life. But I can show you how to see your shining light at the end of the dark tunnel.

💩 It Happens! It’s what we do next that makes the difference 🌟

If you’d like some strategies to find that shining light, check out the link in my 🌞photo 👇

A Story With…A Starfish

A Story With…A Starfish

Long Story Short: Why is The Southey Way logo a starfish? Did you know that there are over 1900 different types of Starfish? And this number is, amazingly, growing.   Did you know Starfish can regenerate? Most can regenerate damaged parts or lost arms.  How […]

What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?

The short answer? A fighter pilot – aged 8 and female in the 70’s this was not even allowed! I was told I could be an air traffic control officer instead.  Same, same, right?! By the time society had changed enough to let women be […]

It’s Story Time at The Southey Way

It’s Story Time at The Southey Way

Welcome to A Story With…

As someone I have had conversations with, you probably know I’m a little ‘different’

When I was thinking about how to stay in touch with you, I looked for something different to do and A Story with… was born.

I hope you find it interesting and fun. Please tell me, if not!


So what is A Story With…?

We all love a good story. And Life is full of them.

Yours, mine, people we know.  Events that happen, actions we take, things we learn, places that change, you name it and there will be a story around it.

A Story With… is my way of bringing some of these stories to you.

These stories will not be newsletters or buy from me emails.

These will be a sporadically irregular arrival into your inbox about life, the universe and everything.

Any topic that I find interesting and that I think you might too.

There will be stories about life challenges and successes, fitness, mental and emotional health, life and lifestyle, work and play.  There will be guest story tellers and true stories from inspirational people. You will (inevitably) find out more about me as a person as well.

Sometimes these stories will be in written form, other times a short video or audio.

Always, my aim is to entertain you and maybe encourage a new thought or two.

And if you are interested in finding out more about working with me and The Southey Way, you can always book a time for a chat or book onto my TSW SOS Workshop using the links at the end (That’s about as salesy as I get smiles :D)

Watch out for the next couple of stories.  One about who I am and why The Southey Way exists. Oh there’ll also be A Story About a Starfish!

Until next time, stay strong!

Sara x

Book A Chat With…

TSW SOS: Take Control Workshop

Sara Southey

07860 454514  


Top Health Tips for Time Poor Individuals

Top Health Tips for Time Poor Individuals

Today I was tagged in a post asking for my Top Health Tips for Time Poor individuals by the fabulous Victoria Wright from The Living Herb Victoria’s post contained this picture. I was asked to comment on what my top health tips would be. This […]

I just want to not drop dead of a heart attack…

I just want to not drop dead of a heart attack…

  “I just want to not drop dead of a heart attack” “I want the energy to keep up with my kids” “I want to see my toes again” “I want to look great for my partner” “I want to live better”   I have […]